“The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen, just listen.”
Rachel Naomi Remen
There are many reasons why someone might need and benefit from the professional services of a “mindful listener”. Just being able to speak to someone who can be objective and non-judgmental about our personal thoughts and feelings is one. Family and friends can offer community and support but are often so caught up in their own busy lives that they do not have the quality time to just sit and listen and reflect with us. They are also not usually trained in the art of listening. They might offer us advice that is well meaning but not necessarily useful. During my training and practice as a Contemplative Psychotherapist I learned that most of us possess the answers to our deepest and most profound questions. It is just a matter of removing the blocks that can sometimes overwhelm and keep us from moving forward in our lives. My job as a listener is to reflect on what is being said in a non-judgmental manner and skillfully ask questions that assist you in discovering the best “next steps” for you.
“The greatest gift you can offer to another person is your attention.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
Quite often the best thing about the exchange between two people is just that, the exchange. There is never any pressure to find solutions. The exchange of ideas and the experience of being “heard” can be completely satisfying in itself.
“A Good Listener will listen not only to what is being said, but also to what is left unsaid.”
Just as the gaps between the notes in a musical composition are as important as the notes themselves, so are the moments of silence in a conversation. A skilled listener knows how to respond to such gaps.
I offer my services primarily over the phone and all appointments, as well as payment, can be made here on the web site through the calendar and my secure pay pal account. However, depending on your location I am also available for face-to-face mindful listening sessions. This is sometimes useful for family members who are unable to spend the desired amount of time with a loved one who is home-bound or residing in an assisted living situation or retirement home. Please contact me via email to make arrangements for F2F. A slightly different fee schedule may apply.
I look forward to hearing from you. Feel free to contact me with any questions you might have regarding my services.